sick of cooking

[ukracer]

Strange comment I guess and I suspect its all relative.
Its probably made worse by having two weeks off from child minding ,showing me what I am missing.
I love my grandkids but looking after them, as well as my wife and now my dad is starting to get to me.

I have good days and bad days but it seems every time I dont have the kids on an evening (I have them 3 or 4 days at night) some days its my choice as I know the big one will be up and ready for school but I cant guarantee that when he sleeps at home.
Anyway it feels like when ever I get an evening without them my wife becomes awkward and is not satisfied with simple meals, or even if they are simple , they need watching. And I am sick of cooking because of this.

Not really sure what I I want people to say just venting I suppose. Strangely enough my depression is often triggered by projects. This time its Matts. lol While I cant aspire to create anything like Matt I turned a pin last night and it felt great. I wanted to do another 3 tonight but the wife wanted faggots and mash. AAAARRRggg.

 

[MattH]

Always welcome down at the workshop if you want a day out.
I know you’ve got a lot of responsibilities but the kettle is always ready to go on here.

 

[octo0072000]

Just keep plodding on mate is there no chance of any respite care that you could get just make sure you get a bit of me time even if it's only going for a walk all the best Ross the Octo

 

[gaz1]

ive allways had one day off and take away ordered

i like cooking but i love that day off from cooking even more

its then finding out what everyone is interested in having

so its either pizza or others
chinese
indian curry and my massive shanni nan kebab

i like thickish gravy thoe so if its like water i dont buy from them again

though i have had mixed grill and currry and rice from the chinese shop

sometimes twice a week it really does help having that break in cooking for everyone

 

[More Amps]

Nothing wrong with venting occasionally (its better than a pressure vessel with no prv!) As far as cooking goes, have you thought about batch cooking - make 2/3/4 times as much as you need, and freeze separate meals for use later. I used to do most of the cooking when I was married - complicated by one daughter deciding to go veggie, and a wife who had an ever-growing list of things she didn't like...

 

[ukracer]

Always welcome down at the workshop if you want a day out.
I know you’ve got a lot of responsibilities but the kettle is always ready to go on here.

I know mate. Ironically this is part of the problem. We are selling the 5th wheel and now have a static in Bishops Castle....so no where near Bristol sadly.
So every weekend I have to go and sit wasting my time at the static (hopefully when I get my rat destroyed tackle sorted I will be able to fish on the lake again)

Weekdays I take my big grandson to school. Then look after the little one. (Hard work now) no daily sleeps and 18 months till he goes to school)
I used to be able to grab a couple of hours in workshop when he slept or went home for the night. Now I only get the evening but wife wants food that takes my time to cook.

I am getting worse and can't concentrate in fits and starts. Need to concentrate fully.

I guess loosing the, loosely termed "contract" to assemble T splices, has frustrated me as it was not well paid but I made jigs up and could immerse myself for the day off in the week my daughter in law gets. AND it covered the extra electric and gas bills.

Once I completed 64 I felt good about life........

 

[ukracer]

Nothing wrong with venting occasionally (its better than a pressure vessel with no prv!) As far as cooking goes, have you thought about batch cooking - make 2/3/4 times as much as you need, and freeze separate meals for use later. I used to do most of the cooking when I was married - complicated by one daughter deciding to go veggie, and a wife who had an ever-growing list of things she didn't like...

Well sort of batch cook anyway but....freezers are rammed so I end up having chilli for 4 days lol

Ironically I purchased a foodi soup maker for 128 quid. As it was her 6th birthday Monday.. I thought she might like using it as I could chop veggies in advance etc.

leaving it to vook on its own. But she turned her nose up at it. Saying she wants a pole to fish the lake at van . I already have 4 poles but fish are hard to catch at lake...its not really a pole venue.....so I cant even get that right.

 

[More Amps]

No-one ever said bringing up kids was easy - especially when they change their minds every five minutes! Don't let the bad times get you down, just because she didn't want to make soup once doesn't mean it's carved in stone, leave it a few days, make a big production of how you're making "special" soup - and don't ask if she wants to help...give it five minutes and she'll be pestering you to help!

 

[ukracer]

No-one ever said bringing up kids was easy - especially when they change their minds every five minutes! Don't let the bad times get you down, just because she didn't want to make soup once doesn't mean it's carved in stone, leave it a few days, make a big production of how you're making "special" soup - and don't ask if she wants to help...give it five minutes and she'll be pestering you to help!

I get what you are saying. It's just a big gamble to take 128 quid (that's discounted price as well) hoping it will be useful. Lol

The stupid part is she lives on Tomato soup from Aldi. Has it every day with a chicken sarnie.

Not sure whether to send it back or open it and try it. It gets rave reviews but so does all of the foodi range.....

 

[ukracer]

Just keep plodding on mate is there no chance of any respite care that you could get just make sure you get a bit of me time even if it's only going for a walk all the best Ross the Octo

Respite not possible due to circumstances and to be honest it's not me .

 

[More Amps]

Argh "tomato" soup - it doesn't matter if its Heinz or Aldi, once they get a taste for the thick red gloop, there's no point trying to make your own! A good home-made soup with fresh baked bread is food of the Gods (or it can be if everything goes well!)

 

[ukracer]

Argh "tomato" soup - it doesn't matter if its Heinz or Aldi, once they get a taste for the thick red gloop, there's no point trying to make your own! A good home-made soup with fresh baked bread is food of the Gods (or it can be if everything goes well!)

From what I have been reading as the foodie has an element you can cook other things (within reason).

Also looking to save calories as well as hands on time.

 

[Parm]

Mate shall I come n see you?

 

[Beanwood]

I feel for you. I don't mind cooking- gives me a chance of peace and quiet in the kitchen with a glass of cider or wine whilst concocting something. But it's the expectation you'll do it that's the issue.

Don't get me wrong I have absolutely nothing to complain about- but if I'm walking dogs, outside cutting grass and stuff whilst someone else is watching TV, why does it fall to me to cook when I've finished.?

Rhetorical question- just wanted to vent- thanks for the opportunity.

 

[ukracer]

Mate shall I come n see you?

I am fine mate. By all accounts you are a bad influence for a few. Lol
But thanks for the offer.
The biggest issue I have is trying to explain things to the wife. She sulks and acts like a 5 year old (due to the brain injury) when saying no or wait or hold on a minute.

 

[Wildefalcon]

It wears you down, sometimes. I think you're doing better than I would in the circumstances. Can you carve out some protected time for yourself?

 

[addjunkie]

I hate cooking with a vengence. But reading between the lines here cooking isnt the issue.

Your dealing with a very difficult situation looking after your Mrs, but add in a parent and grandchildren it would break most folk. Perhaps its time to sit quietly with your grandchildren's parents and discuss how better to manage things. No matter what you think, you are the most important person in your live and if your broken the rest will all fall to pieces around you.

 

[bricol]

Perhaps its time to sit quietly with your grandchildren's parents and discuss how better to manage things. No matter what you think, you are the most important person in your live and if your broken the rest will all fall to pieces around you.

Exactly that - I watched a couple of next door neighbours going downhill due to being tired out from their respective grandkids. I know they felt, as I guess you do, they had to do it, family and all that, but think back - did you put upon your parents quite so much? The parents need to readjust something somewhere to allow you some life, some recovery time, or they will end up with rather more work and hassle than losing a day, or hopefully a couple, of free child care when they need to be looking after visiting you and/or your wife.

 

[pedrobedro]

We had faggots mash and mushy peas the other day, first time in years. Thank you Mr Brains it was delicious. Just please yourself every so often and you'll be grand.

 

[armalites]

When you are under a huge amount of pressure it's very easy to take the easy options especially with kids. In my opinion nobody should be having any discussions about what food they are eating with young children, that's how you end up with kids that will only eat chocolate and chips. Nobody is born with in built dislike for certain food it's all learned.

My kids are 17 and 18 and there things that they wouldn't choose if I asked them but I serve them anyway and they eat them. They are also more than capable of preparing food.

@ukracer I've read many of you posts and I don't know the full background of how you have ended up fighting your own demons as well as managing half you families problems too but something needs a radical rethink and you need to sort a day a week/month where you can do exactly what you want to do.

Maybe it's time the kids parents came and looked after your wife for the day.