sick of cooking

[ukracer]

Don't forget that the most important person in your 'group' is the CARER. Look after yourself first otherwise you can't look after the others. Easy to say difficult to do. As one who worked in that sector for 10 years before retirement I've seen it . The light at the end of the tunnel just might NOT be a train coming towards you.

I am really grateful to all those who have replied and shown compasion and interest.

I think it comes from 32 years in the fire service putting others first. I really get a buzz a when helping people and I also love being creative (although I am not as clever as most) (I cant make money for instance.) lol

I actually know what sets me off (sadly its my wife) she lacks compasion more and more, for anyone outside family. This comes from her father and has got worse since her mom died. The news about my sons father in law has got worse and its a full blown stroke he has had. loss of speech and use of some limbs. SO having been through it with my wife I know what my sons inlaws and his wife will be going through. I know he has no choice but to help them in anyway he can. You would expect someone who has been through it for 22 years to appreciate what its going to be like. But she hates sons mother in law sadly.

So as my kid comes first I am already unable to ignore thinking of ways of helping "him" People can in all good intentions tell me to look after myself but honestly its not that simple.

 

[AlexBrown_1]

I'm afraid I can't help with the mental health aspect of things but when it comes to cooking, my partner and I always have a few set easy meals for when we really can't be bothered or we're working very late. Either a set mixture of tins and a little touch of spice which just needs to be boiled for 30 minutes to make a gorgeous lentil curry or pesto pasta sort of thing. Something that requires no thinking

Also, maybe freeze some if you have space? Make a larger meal when you've got the effort and then it's just a case of defrosting and microwaving/ bunging in the oven and you can avoid the take away.

I'd be happy to pass on some easy, cheap recipes that we have found worked for us when we were living on less than 10k a year during our masters programs.

Other than that all I can add is that it's okay to feel like you're feeling, it sounds like you're doing very well considering what you've got on your plate. Best of luck

 

[redlig]

I'm afraid I can't help with the mental health aspect of things but when it comes to cooking, my partner and I always have a few set easy meals for when we really can't be bothered or we're working very late. Either a set mixture of tins and a little touch of spice which just needs to be boiled for 30 minutes to make a gorgeous lentil curry or pesto pasta sort of thing. Something that requires no thinking

Also, maybe freeze some if you have space? Make a larger meal when you've got the effort and then it's just a case of defrosting and microwaving/ bunging in the oven and you can avoid the take away.

I'd be happy to pass on some easy, cheap recipes that we have found worked for us when we were living on less than 10k a year during our masters programs.

Other than that all I can add is that it's okay to feel like you're feeling, it sounds like you're doing very well considering what you've got on your plate. Best of luck

Tonight's scenario. Me to Swmbo " what have you got out of freezer for tonight?"
" Pork cutlets "
Me " Hmmm how about a Pizza ? "
So it's the pork tomorrow then.

 

[ukracer]

Ok a little update.
I ended up going two ways. A lot of stressful things happened over the last 3 weeks.
Whilst I can usually ride the waves and come out the other side without assistance easily. But whilst I am now through the worst (I hope) it's been hard this time.
Not least my sons father-in-law having a severe stroke 2 weeks today made me take stock. (Stupid really as 22 years ago this November my wife had a massive stroke. ,and our lives were turned on their head) so I should have started looking after my health sooner.
Anyway. I have been able to follow my wife's lead and switch to salads for a period.

So if anyone has some particularly good salad recipes, please feel free to post them in here.


During this period my wife was 60 so I got her a Foodi soup maker.
Her first response was that can go back. Lol. You would think after 38 years being married you would know someone.......

Anyway she asked for a fishing pole. God knows how she is going ship in and out with one hand., oh well at least the soup maker will come in handy.

So if anyone would care to list their favourite soups, please feel free. Especially if you have the Foodi HB150UK .

Finally if you want to know how to chill out. Slam on BBC4 easy listening and crack out the sherry. I feel like I am in seventh heaven. Lol

 

[redlig]

Ok a little update.
I ended up going two ways. A lot of stressful things happened over the last 3 weeks.
Whilst I can usually ride the waves and come out the other side without assistance easily. But whilst I am now through the worst (I hope) it's been hard this time.
Not least my sons father-in-law having a severe stroke 2 weeks today made me take stock. (Stupid really as 22 years ago this November my wife had a massive stroke. ,and our lives were turned on their head) so I should have started looking after my health sooner.
Anyway. I have been able to follow my wife's lead and switch to salads for a period.

So if anyone has some particularly good salad recipes, please feel free to post them in here.


During this period my wife was 60 so I got her a Foodi soup maker.
Her first response was that can go back. Lol. You would think after 38 years being married you would know someone.......

Anyway she asked for a fishing pole. God knows how she is going ship in and out with one hand., oh well at least the soup maker will come in handy.

So if anyone would care to list their favourite soups, please feel free. Especially if you have the Foodi HB150UK .

Finally if you want to know how to chill out. Slam on BBC4 easy listening and crack out the sherry. I feel like I am in seventh heaven. Lol

Simple Leek and Potato soup and add in what you like .

 

[ukracer]

Simple Leek and Potato soup and add in what you like .

Strangely that is exactly what I did as the first test. She loved the soup and even had it for lunch two days in a row.

 

[bigegg]

Passata/smooth tomato juice.
Worcestershire sauce (Henderson relish for preference).
Celery.
Bit of salt.
Bit of cayenne pepper.
Vodka.

Best served cold.

 

[slim_boy_fat]

Home made Cullen Skink is my all-time favourite soup. Summer isn't really soup weather.....

As for the salad thing, just the usual for me - lettuce, cheese, crisps/nuts, apple, grapes radishes, buttered cream crackers. Whatever I have in the fridge, really.

 

[premmington]

Home made Cullen Skink is my all-time favourite soup. Summer isn't really soup weather.....

As for the salad thing, just the usual for me - lettuce, cheese, crisps/nuts, apple, grapes radishes, buttered cream crackers. Whatever I have in the fridge, really.

Smoked haddock, potatoes and onions with milk.

My Nan used make this (she was not Scottish).

Not had it for years - I got some more dental treatment coming up - may make myself some.

 

[premmington]

Passata/smooth tomato juice.
Worcestershire sauce (Henderson relish for preference).
Celery.
Bit of salt.
Bit of cayenne pepper.
Vodka.

Best served cold.

Tomato Juice
Worcester Sauce
Celery Salt
Dash of Tabasco Sauce

No vodka - I do drink but don't like vodka "Bloody Mary's"
Plus strangely - I tend to have this at breakfast time!
Boxed tomato juice is a cheap as chips from Lidls.

 

[Gareth J]

We use this book a bit;

Pardon our interruption...

www.ebay.co.uk

There's a few ok go tos in there.

Can't comment on what sounds like an incredibly difficult and complicated situation. Is there anywhere to ask that does know about these sort of situations? Resources to check you're getting the level of help you and/or your grandkids families may be allowed to apply for?

PS,
Hope your tackle is healing well after the gnawing incident, sounds aweful.
(Sorry, it's poor timing but I couldn't resist!)

 

[ukracer]

We use this book a bit;

Pardon our interruption...

www.ebay.co.uk

There's a few ok go tos in there.

Can't comment on what sounds like an incredibly difficult and complicated situation. Is there anywhere to ask that does know about these sort of situations? Resources to check you're getting the level of help you and/or your grandkids families may be allowed to apply for?

PS,
Hope your tackle is healing well after the gnawing incident, sounds aweful.
(Sorry, it's poor timing but I couldn't resist!)

Cheers chap. I have had a decent break without grandkids since Wednesday at the caravan. Must be getting better as I was not getting upset about not being able to be creative, I have learnt to relax here now.
Sadly my wife was ill yesterday with a head cold, waiting to see how she feels today.

But yes I am getting another seat Monday. Comes with all accessories (2nd hand) butmy table should be sorted soon.

 

[AKN]

My sympathies for you in your situation I understand how hard it is.
My last employer, faced within an increasing number of staff with carer responsibilities organised a session with these guys. At the time I was caring for my disabled mother and went along. They were not just about having someone to talk to they were very good in practical support as well. I know they are Bucks based but they know of other groups round the country.

Carers Bucks

Carers Bucks supports unpaid carers in Buckinghamshire of all ages, from all backgrounds and in different caring roles.

carersbucks.org

 

[ukracer]

How do people keep their calm.
I realise my issue is minute compared to MattH posting earlier.

And in all honesty I am not that upset about missing out on it, but I agreed to buy an item on Facebook. But could not collect until Monday.

They woman selling it spoke to her husband who agreed to keep it for me. (On friday)
I have just got a message saying the son has sold it while they were out.........

Did I loose out on a lot or was I kidding myself it was usefully?

 

[bigegg]

How do people keep their calm.
I realise my issue is minute compared to MattH posting earlier.

And in all honesty I am not that upset about missing out on it, but I agreed to buy an item on Facebook. But could not collect until Monday.

They woman selling it spoke to her husband who agreed to keep it for me. (On friday)
I have just got a message saying the son has sold it while they were out.........

Did I loose out on a lot or was I kidding myself it was usefully?

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Nah mate, you dodged a bullet there.
Be glad that you didn't get stuck with it, regardless of how cheap it was.



(Don't ask why, just take me at my word. )

 

[ukracer]

Nah mate, you dodged a bullet there.
Be glad that you didn't get stuck with it, regardless of how cheap it was.



(Don't ask why, just take me at my word. )

I do take you at your word but never the less you have me intrigued. lol