Sometimes you just have to accept responsibility for your actions.
Come come my good Sir, this is 2020 and everyone knows that someone else is always to blame.
Accept responsibility?? How very 1970's .
Sometimes you just have to accept responsibility for your actions.
Drill the holes out while he's not looking
My sediment exactly, he left everything in there why is it someone else's problem? If the original bolts drilled out they weren't that secure.
Things are not always as they seem. His wife's Mother had just died and she hadn't seen her because she was in a nursing home and Covid isolated. She had been made redundant as the council closed down the civic centre due to the ongoing Covid. It was also her birthday and he is suffering from depression as he has to work from home and stay home because he is a severe asthmatic and daren't risk catching Covid. So I thought it prudent to help.
Things are not always as they seem. His wife's Mother had just died and she hadn't seen her because she was in a nursing home and Covid isolated. She had been made redundant as the council closed down the civic centre due to the ongoing Covid. It was also her birthday and he is suffering from depression as he has to work from home and stay home because he is a severe asthmatic and daren't risk catching Covid. So I thought it prudent to help.
Fair comment and I see a few have added their comments in light of this.
However and I say the following from a background of experience. You cannot, in fact you must not, wrap people in cotton wool. ie Protect them from themselves. In fact, the more you approach problems like this with your neighbour from a "Oh look, this is the problem, I wonder how we can fix this?" perspective, the better off your neighbour will be.
Acquiescing to your neighbours situation and then bending over backwards so he will not be "more upset" is probably far more damaging in the long run, for your neighbour, than anything else you can imagine.
This is just my personal view and I am not a psychiatrist or other type of mental health professional.
Problem is, there's an awful lot of people out there with no practical ability whatsoever - and asking them how they think a problem can be solved just adds to their stress and your time. Easier for all for the practical one to just do it and not add extra worry. I know - my flippin boss is one . . . in an engineering firm!!! Does lovely charts and spreadsheets though I don't!
after I gave him another, it has one as the bottom - he has a hose fitted to the top one so he can fill it from the tap . . .I've not dared say anything . . .
I get on with my ex-but-one - but her husband is a good cup of tea maker. No practical use what so ever otherwise - it stresses ME if I am called on for assistance - with him trying to "help" it wastes so much time where I could be doing something else. To see him with a shovel digging a hole is to realise he never had a spade at the seaside as a kid . . . no idea how to change a wheel on a car . . . I asked one day about the electric lawnmover he had chucked out - "doesn't work" - have you checked the fuse? "fuse?" . . . one fuse liberated from the microwave also chucked out and he had a working lawnmower . . . chucked out again as he simply can't see that taking it on lowest setting into long grass will choke it and over load it . . . dead proud of imself - fitted the tap into a water butt . .at the top . . . after I gave him another, it has one as the bottom - he has a hose fitted to the top one so he can fill it from the tap . . .I've not dared say anything . . .
Have you actually drilled the heads off as your first post seemed to indicate you had? If so if you have not secured it, albeit temporarily, how is he coping? And if the power is back on will that solve the problem anyway? Good job I dont suffer from OCD as I had to drill my lock and then cut a panel in the door to get in my garage last week as the lock would not work. I have taped the cut-out back on the door and covered the hole where the lock fitted whilst I work out a fix but dont loose any sleep over the fact. I would be raving if some scrote did get in but there is so much stuff in there he would have trouble getting it out. Plus the three dogs does help as an alarm system!
You don't have an extension cable? Just run power back to his house. Bodge up a plug, send power to it, shove it into any handy socket (then destroy the cable before elfin safety nail you to the wall for it).
You should probably find out why his power cut off first...