arther dailey
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you sent that sash clamp to the tip , shame on youJust found a pic showing the contents of the shed that went to the tip, nice wooden chest but I had no where to put it
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you sent that sash clamp to the tip , shame on youJust found a pic showing the contents of the shed that went to the tip, nice wooden chest but I had no where to put it
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Mate of mine goes to a big car boot sale everyThursday. Just before it closes a couple of big house clearance kiosks there let everything they have left go for free.We have, but in days gone by much of that wood in the above picture would have been recycled to heat the house!
It only had one clamp and I went through everything looking for the other one before consigning it to the tipyou sent that sash clamp to the tip , shame on you

Clearing relatives personal possessions involves a huge amount of emotional labour. Even if you're chucking most of it it's still a daunting task. We did the easy, obvious things first - furniture as you say - kitchen stuff, clothes and bedding. You have to do it gradually and work yourself up to the documents, photos, and smaller personal stuff. I admire those who can easily detach from childhood memories.
 
 



Other items have value or use to the right person...for me it's important that I give these a deserving home so that they don't end up in the skip....even if it means letting go of them while I'm still around.

My Great Aunt was exactly the same. Aspidistra on a stand and all !Nothing is for 'best'.
My cousin had a living room that no-one was allowed to go in. Brand new carpet, new furniture but no, you weren't allowed in.
 Then there is the knowledge that I will join their ranks one day, and no one will even care after a couple of
 Then there is the knowledge that I will join their ranks one day, and no one will even care after a couple of When was the last time you saw tea chests?! As a kid, they seemed to be everywhere for storage, moves etc.Just found a pic showing the contents of the shed that went to the tip, nice wooden chest but I had no where to put it
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Actually not a bad idea. Would it still be liable for inheritance tax if the policy was in their name/s ?Starting to wonder if an "accidental " post funeral house fire might be a good way of finishing off with the insurance to the kids.
Why wait for the funeral, it would save the cost of the cremationStarting to wonder if an "accidental " post funeral house fire might be a good way of finishing off with the insurance to the kids.

Dark subject matter, but if you dont laugh about it, theres only tears left!This is cheerful !!
These are a life times memories of things “done”. One thing to remember when your sat in the wipe clean chair in the old folks home watching TV, things will come on TV to spark a memory of what you actually did. Many of the others will be sat there thinking I wish Id done more, their minds filled with the regrets of not doing what they dreamed of.As a teenager I was determined I was going to travel a lot, and I wanted to document my life so I could look back on it all when I got old and feeble, and happily reminisce on everything. As a result I have thousands of photos, digital and paper.
Trouble is that now that I am old and feeble, looking at the pics just makes me a bit sad, sad that so many fun times have gone, and will never happen again.
My daughter might find a few of them interesting, as she is in a lot of them, our life in the far east, but most will be meaningless to her.
And then there was that box of certain, er, risqué photos I took in my early years in Asia, photos that no daughter would ever want to see of her dads past.
I disposed of them when sailing into Saudis waters many years ago, as we had been alerted that the immigration, customs, police etc, would swarm the ship and search everything. Late one evening I took a walk up the helideck, had a last nostalgic look at the pics of so many girls I (very briefly) knew, and chucked the lot over the side.
And a gust of wind blew them back all over the deck, and I spent an hour with a torch rushing around trying to find every last one of these somewhat incriminating piccies
Some very wise words there; very wise indeed.These are a life times memories of things “done”. One thing to remember when your sat in the wipe clean chair in the old folks home watching TV, things will come on TV to spark a memory of what you actually did. Many of the others will be sat there thinking I wish Id done more, their minds filled with the regrets of not doing what they dreamed of.
Many folk now spend their life watching other folks dreams on TV / uTube not out there making their own memories.
My son’s partners mother is 93 & lives in annex to their property. She moved from an overfull 3 bed house & won’t get rid of anything, my son’s double garage plus a workshop is stuffed to the brim with her stuff & she won’t allow any to go to the tip, says she might need it. Drives my boy up the wall, all this space & can’t use it.Well this took a dark turn, didn't it?
I'm going to have a big clear out so I can properly enjoy the possessions I really love or need, and let the rest go to others who might love/need them now I don't. It's hard to let go of who you used to be - a traveller, an artist, a craftsman, a voracious reader - but if the physical remnants of that don't serve you well in your life as it is now then it's OK to let them go.
If I ever get a heads up that I'm on my way out, I'll probably PM @dobbslc my address, with a quick message saying: Bosch tools, get your @rse here now.
That's those rehomed.




