What Matt said, 100%. Lost three friends to suicide in the last three years, it doesn't solve any problems, it just gives them to someone else. Started SSRIs last week, a bit better already and seeing some hope. Talk to friends, talk to the doc, do some exercise, celebrate small wins.
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Keep taking the SSRIs. Unfortunately you get the side effects straight away (nausea in my case) but keep going. After about three or four weeks, maybe even six, your mood will begin to lighten. It annoys me when people call them 'happy pills', for a start they are not pills and they do not work instantly nor do you suddenly walk around with an inane grin on your face.
I've been on anti-depressants for 10 to 12 years. The hardest part was going to the doctor in the first place.
As a retired pharmacist I'm a pedant about 'pills', but I generally keep my mouth shut.
"I did say welding. I've never been at the sharp end of a wedding. I don't like the cake". The one food guaranteed to destroy a woman's sex drive? Wedding cake
I've been on anti-depressants for 10 to 12 years. The hardest part was going to the doctor in the first place.
As a retired pharmacist I'm a pedant about 'pills', but I generally keep my mouth shut.
"I did say welding. I've never been at the sharp end of a wedding. I don't like the cake". The one food guaranteed to destroy a woman's sex drive? Wedding cake
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SSRIs kept me wide awake for over a week after i started taking them but i was at the peek of my problems, I found in the short term i needed take things but now i have learned to use a methods to cope and i did months of therapy to help with various anxieties and stress which was a massive help,
My close family and genuine friends are aware and can tell when i am slipping so they can talk to me and it makes a huge difference, Often it can take a few minutes or few words to make a whole day to go much better.
My close family and genuine friends are aware and can tell when i am slipping so they can talk to me and it makes a huge difference, Often it can take a few minutes or few words to make a whole day to go much better.
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All this week has been the most i have talked to my 3 daughters who all have there own homes...daily Whatsapp video calls and catch up is beginning to be the norm now and i am really enjoying it
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Never got as much time with my youngest due to starting the business up. Great to see him every day. I'm changing his name to Arnie. He's a little terminator. Doesn't stopAll this week has been the most i have talked to my 3 daughters who all have there own homes...daily Whatsapp video calls and catch up is beginning to be the norm now and i am really enjoying it
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He'd rather eat meat.cut the sugar rations...used to work when mine were young
He's not hyper mind. Just a force of nature
Beats his brothers up and a bit too keep. On getting the boot in. He's 3 mid May starting nursery is going to be interesting.
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My social life consists/consisted of popping to Starbucks several times a week, and doing a bit of shopping after at Tesco. I don’t do pubs or meeting up with friends really.
Worst part of this whole drama is that we just moved house, daughter and me, and I left all my ‘toys’ in storage at my dads. Obviously loads of sorting out to do in the new place, but not very organised, and I have lost motivation completely.
It’s too easy to sit and suck lots of beer down, then regret it all next day, then do it again next evening.
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26 years ago my wife went into Thameside Hospital on the Friday and died the Monday........never got to say goodby......
luckily no kids........
long story but took a year to get the death cert.......
nothing to do completely alone.......
Packed me poo and went to Africa.....not caring if I stayed or not......
the sun made a huge diff and got to work straight away......
so forward...
Got Married last year after she kept me waiting for 20......
Now living in S Europe, building a b/new workshop with lots'a toy's....
life is good.....but me joints ache like crazy....hahaha......
If I can do it so can others......
YOU JUST GOTTA GET OUT THERE.....
be careful out there "Hill Street Blues" they should/could put that back on the Tele......
stay safe everyone......
luckily no kids........
long story but took a year to get the death cert.......
nothing to do completely alone.......
Packed me poo and went to Africa.....not caring if I stayed or not......
the sun made a huge diff and got to work straight away......
so forward...
Got Married last year after she kept me waiting for 20......
Now living in S Europe, building a b/new workshop with lots'a toy's....
life is good.....but me joints ache like crazy....hahaha......
If I can do it so can others......
YOU JUST GOTTA GET OUT THERE.....
be careful out there "Hill Street Blues" they should/could put that back on the Tele......
stay safe everyone......
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Good to know you are now having good time and https://www.channel4.com/programmes/hill-street-blues/on-demand/2290-004
you might have to use a VPN to watch it but it is there.
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I think my post came across in the wrong way. I'm not all that worried about the members with mental health problems as they are more likely to already have successful coping mechanisms in place. I'm much more worried about the people who have never had mental health problems before because you won't even be able to see the hole you could fall into. It would be much better if you can arrange to just walk around the hole.
After any change of circumstances it is best to delay the holiday and get busy right away. Have the holiday later once you are up and running and have something on the go that you can easily get back to.
I'm a nutter. My own emergency action plan is to finally make my secondary glazing. I've been enjoying it. It's going to be a whole lot nicer than the overpriced aluminium tat. Might have got the lengths wrong though.
After any change of circumstances it is best to delay the holiday and get busy right away. Have the holiday later once you are up and running and have something on the go that you can easily get back to.
I'm a nutter. My own emergency action plan is to finally make my secondary glazing. I've been enjoying it. It's going to be a whole lot nicer than the overpriced aluminium tat. Might have got the lengths wrong though.
