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Like the guys on this forum, if someone wants advice from me about a subject that I am experienced in I happily will tell them as much as I know. The person asking me does not have to dig. If the person asking the question has the time & patients to listen I will tell all I know. It`s called sharing-or helping. The “ two way street” or at least that is what it should be. In my case I`m talking about someone I have known for many years not just met yesterday.
If Mr secret phones me and wants to pick every bit of detail, that`s fine. But, if you want advice from him he makes you work your rocks off to obtain it. One answer to each question, rarely expanding on the answers. Invariably it`s like pulling teeth getting him to expand. Then it`s a case of , “I`ve got to go now or I`m busy, I have to do xyz, or someone is knocking at the door.
I have often likened him to a sponge-soaking up every bit of information and releasing very little.
Is this more common in people than I realise? Do you know someone who is supposed to be a close friend but adopts this mentality.
I have tried to analyse it. He has often referred to “people getting lifted up”. It is almost as though he always wants to be on top, or be one that gains the most from any interaction. I`ve known a couple of people like this, but find it is rare in people. Thankfully it is not like that on here, and invariably the guys go the extra mile to help.
Do you know someone like I have described, and what is your theory of why they are this way?
If Mr secret phones me and wants to pick every bit of detail, that`s fine. But, if you want advice from him he makes you work your rocks off to obtain it. One answer to each question, rarely expanding on the answers. Invariably it`s like pulling teeth getting him to expand. Then it`s a case of , “I`ve got to go now or I`m busy, I have to do xyz, or someone is knocking at the door.
I have often likened him to a sponge-soaking up every bit of information and releasing very little.
Is this more common in people than I realise? Do you know someone who is supposed to be a close friend but adopts this mentality.
I have tried to analyse it. He has often referred to “people getting lifted up”. It is almost as though he always wants to be on top, or be one that gains the most from any interaction. I`ve known a couple of people like this, but find it is rare in people. Thankfully it is not like that on here, and invariably the guys go the extra mile to help.
Do you know someone like I have described, and what is your theory of why they are this way?